Thursday, November 8, 2007
Dead People, Again
This may be morbid, but its the only thing I can think about when you say "change perspective." My grandpa died a few months ago. I had always been so conforming in my views on death such as "we need to mourn at the funeral" and "I wish they didnt have to go because I didnt want them to" which is pretty much the mindset of the majority of people. This was until I saw grandpa die. He had a brain tumor and the whole family was at the hospital and everyone was freaking out even though he was definitely old enough to be dying. Then as I watched his body squirm and flail around while he was gasping for air, I realized he looked just like a fish out of water. After he died and I had to go through the funeral proceedings and all the other issues that synonomously come with death, I realized that it is all over done. I mean, what the heck. People die, lets get over it. Every time someone dies its like "I never saw it coming." Of course you saw it coming, you see it every day in the news all the time. Death is in our lives every second and yet people still cant get over it. We need to let the dead be dead.
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Yes, I think it is morbid, but you do make a point. Sometimes funerals and services can be overdone. But, do you still think people should mourn? Also, you didn't mention if this applies to the actual unexpected deaths. I believe those are very hard to get over, and sometimes the different services can help their families and friends grieve. When the death is expected, I think it is somewhat easier to get over. Would your view have changed if you hadn't been in the room when your grandpa died? I believe that event may have made an impact on your perspective.
Definitely a bold topic to talk about, but I definitely agree in a sense, atleast in the case of your grandpa's. People should not be living like that and it is no surprise to see why he passed away with his brain tumor and age. I can see the "I never saw it coming" stance on that. However, when a person dies at a young age to a freak accident or something like that, it can never really be seen. That does not matter how much exposure to death we have everyday. With older people, there is just a sense of preparation for the death, but people who die at younger ages, even at like 40 or 50 cannot really have that same stance taken.
I'm glad to see someone finally agrees with me on this point. Both times when each of my grandmother's died, there was an enormous amount of "freaking out" if you will. This happend despite the fact that one had cancer, and the other alzheimer's. I have always thought "Do you guys not realize cancer and alzheimer's eventually end in death?" I think it also helped alot in dealing with that sittuation; understanding that death is only a natural progression of life.
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